I would like to wish away the tears that come unexpectedly, without warning, seemingly without reason.
Yes, I cry for the baby girl – we – my husband, my son, and I want to add to our family but aren’t really pursuing.
But is that all my tears represent, after all this time?
I remember the tears, just like the tears someone is crying today.
I cry for others.
I cry for the woman who is viewing her ultrasound for fibroids, cysts, or endometriosis – instead of viewing an ultrasound of a growing embryo in her uterus.
I cry for the woman alone in the waiting room of her OB-GYN waiting for her next pap smear – instead of waiting to hear the measurements and heartbeat of her growing baby.
I cry for the woman who miscarried after IVF – instead of hearing the hCG levels after IVF were rising beautifully in the right direction.
I cry because I have been there.
But then I pray for them.
I remember the joy.
I pray for joy for them, too.
Post gaudia luctus. That’s Latin for “joy succeeds sorrow.” Several verses in Scripture confirm this.
Jeremiah 31:13b “for I will turn their mourning into joy, and will comfort them, and make them rejoice from their sorrow.”
Matthew Henry’s Commentary on this verse: Those are comforted indeed whom God comforts, and may forget their troubles when he makes them to rejoice from their sorrow, not only rejoice after it, but rejoice from it their joy shall borrow luster from their sorrow, which shall serve as a foil to it; and the more they think of their troubles, the more they rejoice in their deliverance.
Psalm 126:5 “They that sow in tears shall reap in joy.”
Matthew Henry’s Commentary: Suffering saints are in tears often; they share in the calamities of human life and commonly have a greater share in them than others. But they sow in tears; they do the duty of an afflicted state and so answer the intentions of the providences they are under. They shall have a harvest of joy. The troubles of the saints will not last always, but when they have done their work, shall have a happy period.
Psalm 30:5b “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.
Matthew Henry’s Commentary: If weeping endureth for a night, and it be a wearisome night, yet as sure as the light of the morning returns after the darkness of the night, so sure will joy and comfort return in a short time, in due time, to the people of God.
“Our joys are made better if there be sorrow in the midst of them. And our sorrows are made bright by the joys that God has planted around about them. The flowers may not be pleasing to us, they may not be such as we are fond of plucking, but they are heart flowers, love, hope, faith, joy, peace – these are flowers which are planted around about every grave that is sunk in the Christian heart.”
Streams in the Desert, April 25