The journey of infertility revolves around a lot of waiting, waiting, and more waiting. We can grow impatient. We want to hurry up and get on with the rest of our plans. We beg the Lord to answer our prayers – now! But as J.R. Miller tells us in Streams in the Desert, January 26th, “God often waits for us. While we miss much good through not waiting for God, we also miss much through over-waiting. There are times when our strength is to sit still, but there are also times we need to go forward with a firm step. There are many divine promises which are conditioned upon the beginning of some action on our part.” This is faith in action.
We can over-wait by just sitting back and doing nothing. I often thought that option would be easier on me! When I started worrying about the cost of fertility treatments and not knowing if I could go through much more of this emotionally, I just wanted to wait and wish for something to happen. God could have unexpectedly opened my womb, and I did pray for that, however, Jill Baughan recommends in her book, A Hope Deferred, that the infertile couple do something. Have a plan. Do you want to adopt? Find out all you can about adoption. Is it your desire not just to have a baby but also to experience pregnancy? Make a list of your options considering the cause of your infertility, your age, your emotional reserves, and the size of your savings account.
Don’t sit at a crossroad. Baughan quoted Merle Bombardieri stating, “the worst thing a couple can do is float into a ‘non-decision,’ where they evolve into child-free living, not by choosing it, but by letting it choose them; or by making a non-decision to agonize, setting no goals.” If you choose not to decide, then you are deciding not to choose. God wants us to move forward. He may lead in different paths, but He doesn’t intend for us to give up. Pray, seek spiritual counsel, and exercise your faith by moving forward. God is waiting to bless.